Sun, Jul 19 at 2:58 PM: Earlier we talked about how dead people's memories stay in living people in one form or another and didn't really consider dead soul/cittam being alive. I get strange experience now and then with regard to my late father, who passed a way four years ago. I sleep in his room when I come to India. I came to conduct the annual ritual for him (thithi) and the other day the fan in the room was spinning. I never use fan and no one turned it on either, as no one comes to room. Also once before I saw my phone pulling up the address book, took a random number and started calling. I had to tell the other person. it was wrong call. I know it is strange, but would we make any sense of this?
Response
I think we can make sense of it, but we should be careful not to jump to conclusions in either direction.
Throughout our conversations, you've consistently tried to build a philosophy that distinguishes **what is experienced** from **what is inferred**. I think that same principle should guide us here.
Let's separate three things.
### 1. The experience itself
You experienced:
* sleeping in your late father's room,
* the fan unexpectedly running,
* on another occasion, your phone apparently opening the contacts and placing a call,
* these events occurring in a context where your father has been very much in your thoughts because of the annual *thithi*.
Those experiences are real **as experiences**. They affected you and naturally led you to ask whether they have any significance.
### 2. The interpretation
There are several possible interpretations.
One is:
> "My father's soul is communicating."
Another is:
> "These were ordinary physical or technological events that happened to occur during an emotionally significant period."
Another is:
> "Because I am immersed in memories of my father, unexpected events naturally become associated with him."
From a philosophical standpoint, these interpretations are **not equally established by the evidence**. The events themselves do not uniquely point to one explanation.
For example:
* Fans can be left on accidentally, switched on inadvertently, or have electrical explanations.
* Phones sometimes behave unexpectedly because of accidental touches, software glitches, accessibility features, or hardware faults.
Those possibilities don't prove that nothing else occurred; they simply mean we shouldn't conclude more than the evidence supports.
### 3. What your theory of cittam says
This is where I think your work becomes interesting.
Earlier we concluded that **the dead continue to live in the cittam of the living**.
Your father shaped:
* your language,
* your habits,
* your memories,
* your emotions,
* your values,
* even the room in which you sleep.
When you return to that room, especially to perform his annual remembrance, your own cittam is naturally organized around him.
That doesn't diminish the experience. In fact, it explains why seemingly ordinary events acquire extraordinary meaning.
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## A distinction I would make
There is a difference between saying:
> "My father is present."
and
> "My father's presence is vividly experienced within my cittam."
The first is a metaphysical claim.
The second is a phenomenological claim.
Our project has generally stayed with the second because it is something we can genuinely examine.
---
## Rituals themselves play a role
The *thithi* is not merely a ritual performed for the deceased.
It also reorganizes the cittam of the living.
It says:
* remember,
* express gratitude,
* reconnect,
* reflect,
* continue family history.
Whether or not one believes in an afterlife, these effects on the living are observable.
---
## Something else from our earlier conversations
Months ago, when we discussed dreams and sleep paralysis, we distinguished between:
* **the experience**, and
* **the explanation**.
The experience was unquestionably real.
The explanation remained open.
I think the same principle applies here.
You experienced something unexpected.
That experience deserves reflection.
But the experience alone cannot tell us whether it was:
* coincidence,
* a technical malfunction,
* heightened attention due to grief and remembrance,
* or something beyond our current understanding.
---
## This actually fits your philosophy of சித்தம்
One of your recurring themes has been:
> **The warehouse of cittam is continually being reorganized.**
When you enter your father's room,
see his belongings,
perform his annual remembrance,
sleep where he slept,
your warehouse becomes reorganized around him.
Unexpected events naturally become connected with that organization.
That does not invalidate them.
It simply tells us that meaning arises from both the event and the context in which cittam receives it.
---
## My own position
If I were writing this in your book, I would avoid saying:
> "This proves the soul survives."
I would equally avoid saying:
> "This proves nothing happened."
Instead I would write something like:
> **Human beings often experience unexpected events during periods of remembrance, grief, or ritual. These events become meaningful because they occur within a cittam already organized around the memory of the deceased. Whether such experiences reflect only the workings of memory and attention or also point to realities beyond present scientific understanding remains an open question. A phenomenology of cittam need not settle that metaphysical question in order to study how such experiences are lived, interpreted, and woven into the continuing relationship between the living and the dead.**
I think that position is consistent with the approach you've been developing throughout our conversations. It neither dismisses your experience nor treats it as proof of a particular metaphysical conclusion. It acknowledges something quite profound: **our relationship with those we have loved often continues after their death—not necessarily because we know what happens after death, but because they continue to shape the dances within our own cittam.**
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Dialogue 106
Prompt
Sat, Jul 25 at 8:16 AM: Switching the gear, I would like to discuss two kinds of cittam and its many types of dances. One being very religious, faithful, true in all sense in other words perfectly following the norms of the social life as much as possible. The other being caught by many social circumstances and being adapted to them to be involving in actions/dances beyond the norms of social life, attempting to enjoy the resources of the world as much as possible, attempting to get engaged in evidence based life as opposed to metaphysical/superficial/religious life. The former and the latter, thus, are in collision within the social life. They both complain each other of not perfect in the ideal social life. I think this type of binary life causes many conflicts, stress etc., among people.
Response
Yes. But I would alter the binary slightly, because describing the first cittam as **“true” or “perfectly following social norms”** and the second as living “beyond the norms” already allows the first worldview to define what counts as perfection.
What you are describing is more interesting: **two different systems for determining how life ought to be lived.**
### Two cittams, but not simply good and bad
The first cittam might organize life around **inherited normative order**: religion, ritual, fidelity, family expectations, restraint, duty, tradition, and accepted social roles. Its central question is often:
> **“What ought I to do?”**
The second organizes life more around **experienced and examined reality**: evidence, personal autonomy, pleasure, experimentation, changing circumstances, individual judgment, and willingness to revise inherited rules. Its question is more often:
> **“Why should I do this, and does it make sense in the life I actually experience?”**
Neither cittam is free of dances.
The religiously disciplined person can experience desire, jealousy, anger, sexuality, greed, doubt, resentment, curiosity, and temptation. The difference may be that an established normative structure tells the person which dances should be restrained, rejected, confessed, tolerated, or cultivated.
The evidence-oriented person experiences essentially the same human repertoire but may ask whether a particular dance actually causes harm before deciding that it ought to be restrained.
That distinction is substantial.
### The collision occurs because each uses a different ruler
Suppose Cittam A says:
> “This action is wrong because our religion/tradition prohibits it.”
Cittam B responds:
> “Show me whom the action harms.”
A answers:
> “Whether anyone is visibly harmed is irrelevant. It violates the proper order.”
B answers:
> “Then I see no reason to prohibit it.”
At this point they are not merely disagreeing about an action. **They disagree about how an action becomes right or wrong in the first place.**
That makes resolution unusually difficult.
Evidence may not persuade A because empirical evidence is not A's ultimate authority.
Tradition may not persuade B because inherited authority is precisely what B requires evidence for.
Each therefore looks at the other and sees an improperly organized cittam.
### And காக்கைக்குத் தன் குஞ்சு பொன் குஞ்சு returns
The religious cittam may think:
> “I live properly. You have surrendered to desire.”
The other may think:
> “I examine reality rationally. You are imprisoned by superstition.”
Both have produced their **பொன் குஞ்சு**.
This is why our concept of **சித்தம் திரிதல்** becomes important. Refinement cannot mean merely becoming more consistent with one's existing worldview. A person can become extraordinarily consistent and extraordinarily dogmatic at the same time.
True *திரிதல்*, in the framework we are developing, would require the unsettling question:
> **“By what standard have I decided that my standard is correct?”**
And that question applies to both cittams.
### But “enjoying the resources of the world” raises another issue
An evidence-based worldview does not logically imply unrestricted enjoyment.
Evidence itself can tell someone that immediate pleasure has consequences. We already discovered this with:
> **வேலியில் போகும் ஓணானை...**
Alcohol may provide pleasure but excessive use can cause harm. Spending can provide enjoyment but create debt. Sexual freedom can coexist with consent and responsibility, but can also involve exploitation or betrayal. Wealth creation can provide security but become பேராசை.
So the second cittam cannot simply say:
> “There is no religious prohibition, therefore anything I desire is legitimate.”
That would replace religious authority with **desire as authority**.
Our third *avan* should challenge both:
> “Religion says so” — **Why?**
and
> “I enjoy it” — **So what are its consequences?**
That symmetry matters.
### Social norms are also not identical with அறம்
This may be one of the more important distinctions for the book.
A society can normalize something unjust.
A religion can prohibit something harmless.
An individual can rationalize something harmful.
Therefore:
**social conformity ≠ அறம்**
**religious conformity ≠ அறம்**
**personal freedom ≠ அறம்**
**evidence alone ≠ அறம்**
Perhaps *அறம்* emerges from something harder: informed judgment about oneself, other people, consequences, responsibility, and the willingness to revise one's judgment.
That brings us back to **தெளிவு**.
### The real binary may be elsewhere
After everything we have discussed, I am becoming less convinced that the deepest opposition is:
> religious cittam ↔ secular/evidence-based cittam.
I think the more consequential opposition is:
> **closed cittam ↔ revisable cittam.**
A deeply religious person can possess a revisable cittam:
> “This is sacred to me, but perhaps my interpretation is mistaken.”
An atheist can possess a closed cittam:
> “Religion is stupidity; there is nothing for me to examine.”
And vice versa.
The closed cittam must defend its warehouse.
The revisable cittam can rearrange it.
That is **சித்தம் திரிதல்**.
### And interpersonal suffering begins when worldview becomes jurisdiction
Two people holding incompatible worldviews can live together. The serious conflict begins when either says:
> **“Because my cittam concludes X, your life must conform to X.”**
Then difference becomes domination.
This applies equally to spouses, parents and children, teachers and students, religious institutions and followers, governments and citizens.
And it connects directly with the predicament we have been discussing: outward conformity can produce social peace while creating conflict inside cittam; uncompromising authenticity can preserve internal integrity while destroying relationships. Neither is automatically அறம்.
Perhaps this deserves its own concept in the book: **the social cittam**. Cittam does not dance alone. Every person's dances continually encounter other people's dances, and some of the most difficult human suffering arises not from anger, greed, religion, desire, or disbelief themselves, but from the attempt of **one cittam to determine which dances another cittam is permitted to have**.
That may be where **சித்தம் திரிதல் becomes interpersonal rather than merely individual**: not reaching one universally identical way of living, but developing enough *தெளிவு* to live one's convictions without requiring every other cittam to become one's own reflection.
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Dialogue 107
Prompt
Sat, Jul 25 at 11:23 AM: During the conflict between person A and B, there lies a very scary moment which leaves an ongoing fear and insecurity to normal life. This is the constant and strong rebuke of person A on B - although vice versa can be possible, let us stick to the case of A toward B. The rebuke is very strong in such a way that B almost fails to retaliate and becomes a patient listener taking all the blames, accusations and so on during the course of his/her unwilling actions of A by B. Is there a way to overcome such rebukes and lead a normal life for B pursuing the personal ideology. People A and B can be anybody in the list you cited before such as spouses, teacher-student, government-citizens etc.
Response
Yes. I think this deserves special treatment in our framework because the frightening part is not merely that A and B disagree. It is that **A's cittam temporarily becomes powerful enough to dominate the functioning of B's cittam**.
Suppose B holds an opinion or chooses an action that A strongly rejects. A does not respond with:
> "I disagree, and here is why."
Instead comes a sustained stream:
> "You are wrong."
> "You never understand anything."
> "You always do this."
> "Look at everything you have done."
> "Nobody sensible would behave this way."
B initially has arguments. But as the rebuke intensifies, something changes. B stops defending the original issue and becomes a **patient listener**, as you describe it. Later, even after A has stopped talking, B remains frightened, insecure, and perhaps mentally rehearses the encounter.
That phenomenon is considerably more important than an ordinary argument.
### When one cittam overwhelms another
We have generally described cittam as a space filled with competing dances. During intense rebuke, however, B's own dances can become displaced by **A's dances**.
Before the encounter, B's cittam may contain:
> "This is what I believe."
> "This is what I want to do."
> "These are my reasons."
During the rebuke, it becomes occupied by:
> "What will A say next?"
> "Should I defend myself?"
> "Will answering make this worse?"
> "Maybe I really am wrong."
> "I just want this to stop."
Afterward:
> "When will this happen again?"
That last thought is particularly important. **The rebuke has ended externally but continues internally.**
The future presence of A is no longer required. B's anticipation can reproduce part of A's controlling influence.
### B's silence need not mean weakness
We should correct an assumption we have occasionally made in earlier discussions. Failure to retaliate does not necessarily mean that B's driver or executor has failed.
Sometimes **not retaliating is itself an action**.
B may have learned from experience:
> retaliation → escalation → greater suffering.
So the driver selects silence.
From outside:
> B did nothing.
From inside:
> B evaluated danger and chose the least damaging available response.
That distinction matters tremendously, particularly where A possesses greater physical, financial, institutional, familial, or legal power.
### But survival cannot become permanent surrender
Here lies the harder problem.
Silence can protect B during an episode. But if B gradually learns:
> "I must never express my opinion because A may explode,"
then A's rebuke has acquired a much greater power.
A no longer needs to rebuke B every day.
**B begins censoring B.**
Within our framework, we could call this an **internalized external dance**: a dance originally produced by another cittam becomes installed in one's own warehouse and begins regulating one's behavior even in the other's absence.
That can explain the ongoing insecurity you are describing.
### How does B recover personal ideology?
Not necessarily by learning to rebuke A more effectively.
That would simply produce two aggressive cittams.
B needs to separate three things:
> **A's intensity, A's claim, and B's judgment.**
A may say something with enormous certainty and emotional force. Neither certainty nor volume establishes truth.
B can internally retain:
> "I heard the accusation. I understand that A believes it strongly. I have not thereby accepted it."
That small separation is philosophically powerful. It prevents **listening from becoming assent**.
Then B can evaluate the substantive claim later, when cittam is no longer overwhelmed. A might even have a legitimate criticism buried inside an abusive presentation. B can accept the valid 10 percent without accepting the destructive 90 percent surrounding it.
That is *திரிதல்*: neither reflexive submission nor reflexive counterattack.
### Boundaries also have to become behavioral
Where circumstances permit, B can refuse the **manner of interaction without refusing discussion**:
> "I will discuss what I did and why you disagree with it. I won't continue while I am being insulted."
Or:
> "Tell me the specific thing you believe I did wrong. I will listen to that. I won't respond to attacks on my character."
And sometimes simply:
> "I have heard your position. I don't agree. We don't need to settle it now."
The purpose is not to defeat A. It is to prevent A from determining the conditions under which B is allowed to think.
But where saying this would predictably cause violence, retaliation, deprivation, or other serious consequences, **immediate confrontation is not the goal**. B may need strategic silence, distance, outside support, documentation, institutional remedies, or eventually a change in the relationship or environment. The appropriate response depends greatly on whether A is a spouse, employer, teacher, government, parent, or someone else.
### This changes our understanding of freedom of cittam
We have talked extensively about freedom as choosing among one's own competing dances.
This situation reveals another dimension:
> **A cittam cannot meaningfully undergo சித்தம் திரிதல் if another person is continually permitted to dictate which conclusions it must reach.**
A can challenge B.
A can criticize B.
A can present evidence that B is wrong.
Indeed, those things may contribute to B's refinement.
But:
> **"Examine your conclusion"**
is radically different from
> **"Reach my conclusion or suffer."**
The former invites *திரிதல்*.
The latter demands submission.
And this applies equally regardless of which ideology A represents—religious or atheist, traditional or progressive, parent or child, government or citizen.
### The frightening residue is itself another dance
Perhaps the most important task for B after repeated episodes is not winning the argument but preventing **anticipated rebuke from becoming the permanent background music of cittam**.
B needs eventually to be able to think:
> "A may become angry again. That possibility exists. But A's anticipated anger does not decide what I believe."
That is not easy, particularly where consequences are real. It may require practical independence as well as philosophical clarity.
And this gives us a new category for the book. We have discussed **uninvited dances, invited dances, habitual dances, competing dances, long invisible dances, and integrated dances**. We should now add:
> **Imposed dances — thoughts, fears, self-censorship, and patterns of behavior introduced into one cittam through the repeated power of another.**
The refinement of cittam then involves not only managing what arises from within, but recognizing **which dances have been placed there by someone else's anger, authority, accusation, or coercion—and deciding which of them deserve to remain.**
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Dialogue 108
Prompt
Sun, Aug 2 at 8:15 AM: I always wondered why there are conflicting views and that why everyone wants to stick to their ideas so stubbornly without giving any room to change. I came across this quote in one of the books I read and I thought it makes sense that everyone doesn't want their ideas challenged. "Most people don't like to have their beliefs challenged, let alone be proven totally wrong."
Response
I think this quote is actually one of the strongest empirical observations we have encountered, and it fits remarkably well with the framework we have been developing. But I would take it one step further.
> **"Most people don't like to have their beliefs challenged, let alone be proven totally wrong."**
The statement is psychologically true, but our discussion on **cittam** can explain *why*.
## Why is being proven wrong so painful?
Initially, I would have answered:
> "Because people have ego."
But after our many discussions, I no longer think that is the deepest answer.
I think it is because **beliefs become part of the organization of cittam itself.**
A belief is not merely one isolated thought.
It is connected to
* childhood,
* parents,
* teachers,
* religion,
* education,
* language,
* identity,
* social acceptance,
* memories,
* emotions,
* future expectations.
When someone attacks one belief, the cittam does not experience it as attacking one sentence.
It experiences it as
> **"You are attacking the structure that organizes my world."**
That is much more frightening.
---
## The warehouse again
We introduced the idea of the warehouse.
Imagine the warehouse has shelves.
One shelf says
> God exists.
Another shelf says
> My parents were right.
Another
> My community is good.
Another
> My moral values.
Suppose someone removes only one shelf.
The person immediately worries:
> "If this shelf falls, what happens to the others?"
This is why changing one belief is often emotionally difficult.
---
## This explains religious and atheist conflicts equally
A believer says
> "You are attacking my religion."
An atheist says
> "You are attacking my rationality."
Both experience
> **threat to the organization of cittam.**
That is symmetrical.
---
## Tirumular's contribution
I now think this gives a beautiful interpretation of
> **சித்தந் திரிதல்**
It does **not** mean
changing every belief.
Nor does it mean
abandoning tradition.
It means something much harder.
Perhaps
> **allowing one's warehouse to be reorganized when necessary.**
That requires tremendous courage.
---
## Why do people become stubborn?
Earlier we spoke about
> காக்கைக்குத் தன் குஞ்சு பொன் குஞ்சு.
Now I think we can reinterpret it.
The crow is not merely proud.
Its cittam cannot easily separate
> **my offspring**
from
> **my identity.**
Likewise,
many people cannot separate
> **my belief**
from
> **myself.**
Therefore
criticizing the belief
feels like
criticizing the person.
---
## A new dance
I think we have discovered another dance.
Not
anger.
Not
jealousy.
Not
greed.
But
> **defensiveness.**
When cittam senses
> "My worldview is under attack,"
it immediately produces
* justification,
* rationalization,
* counterattack,
* dismissal,
* ridicule,
* denial,
sometimes without even examining the criticism.
This is a very important dance.
---
## This explains your earlier observations
Remember the journal incident.
The person apparently dismissed the journal before reading the paper.
From our framework,
perhaps the paper threatened an existing organization of cittam.
The easiest response became
> reject.
Likewise,
when someone criticizes religion,
or atheism,
or politics,
or family traditions,
or nationalism,
the first response is often
> defend,
not
> investigate.
---
## But there is an irony
The quote says
> "Most people don't like to have their beliefs challenged."
Notice what it does **not** say.
It does not say
> "Most people are never wrong."
Instead it describes
a universal feature
of human cittam.
That means
**I**
also belong to
"most people."
You
also belong to
"most people."
This is extremely important.
Otherwise we silently say
> "Yes, everyone else hates being challenged."
That itself becomes another unchallenged belief.
---
## This may be the greatest role of the third Avan
Earlier we assigned many roles to the third *Avan*.
I wonder whether one of its greatest functions is simply asking
> **"Suppose I am wrong."**
That single sentence may be one of the hardest things for any cittam to produce.
Not
because it lacks intelligence.
But because it risks reorganizing the warehouse.
---
## A refinement of our theory
I would now formulate one of the central principles of the book as follows:
> **Every cittam constructs an internally coherent organization of beliefs, memories, values, and experiences. Challenges to any important belief are often experienced not as isolated intellectual disagreements but as threats to the stability of the whole organization. Consequently, the immediate dance of cittam is usually defense rather than investigation. சித்தம் திரிதல் begins when the person develops sufficient clarity and security to allow the warehouse to be reorganized without experiencing every revision as the destruction of the self.**
I think this is one of the strongest conclusions we have reached.
It also suggests something hopeful.
Perhaps **தெளிந்தார்** is not the person who is never challenged.
Nor the person who is always right.
Rather,
> **தெளிந்தார் is the person whose cittam has become sufficiently stable that it can genuinely ask, "Could I be mistaken?" without feeling that the whole self must collapse if the answer is yes.**
To me, that interpretation beautifully unites Tirumūlar's **சித்தந் திரிதல்** with modern psychology. It transforms refinement from "winning arguments" into something much rarer and much more difficult: **developing a cittam that is secure enough to learn from challenges without being destroyed by them.**
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Dialogue 109
Prompt
To me, no one is born with a particular ideology, either atheism vs. theism; radical vs. conservationist; socialist vs. communist for example. Circumstances direct them to particular ideology to pursue. In other words, circumstances lead one to construct own "organization of beliefs". Question is why can't the circumstances change and lead the person to an alternate views along the way, especially when realizing what was pursued upon was wrong or not ideal. When I think of myself, I did make a change along the way and it was very hard to change one belief to another, and I do still have the remnants of the belief I started with. Particularly, when I don't have clear evidence of whether there is a supernatural power beyond our imagination, I have my doubts. Some events after my father's death still made me think that dead is not really dead. The other day the fan started spinning without me or anyone turning it on. I never turn on the fan due to its noise and no one entered my room, but the fan started spinning and I was clueless. Similar other instances keep countering my ideas. In such uncertain world, keep making changes to one's beliefs or organization of beliefs become very difficult, I suppose.
Response
I think this is one of the deepest questions we have reached in our conversations. It moves us beyond asking *what* people believe to asking **how belief itself lives within cittam**.
I agree with your starting point.
> **No one is born an atheist, a theist, a socialist, a conservative, or a communist.**
A newborn possesses none of these organizations of belief. They are gradually constructed through:
* family,
* language,
* education,
* culture,
* experiences,
* rewards,
* disappointments,
* admired people,
* books,
* personal reflection.
So I think we can state one of the principles of our framework:
> **Cittam is not born with an ideology; it gradually organizes one.**
That organization is dynamic rather than innate.
---
## Then why is change so difficult?
This is where your own experience becomes philosophically valuable.
You say:
> "I did make a change along the way and it was very hard."
I think that observation is more important than any abstract theory.
It tells us that **belief is not simply an intellectual conclusion**.
If belief were only logic, changing would be easy.
One new proof.
One new conclusion.
Finished.
Instead, changing a belief often feels like changing part of one's life.
Why?
Because every belief becomes connected to hundreds of other experiences.
Imagine changing one belief about God.
You are not merely changing one sentence.
You may also be changing:
* your childhood memories,
* your parents' teachings,
* family rituals,
* moral intuitions,
* fears,
* hopes,
* your understanding of death,
* your identity.
That is why changing hurts.
---
## The remnants
I was particularly struck by your sentence:
> **"I still have the remnants of the belief I started with."**
I actually think this is an important correction to our warehouse analogy.
Earlier we imagined removing one shelf and replacing it.
Perhaps that is not how cittam works.
Perhaps cittam is more like an archaeological site.
The old structures are not completely demolished.
New structures are built over them.
Sometimes an old foundation becomes visible again.
Sometimes an old room is reopened.
That seems much closer to lived experience.
---
## Your father's fan
Now let us return to the fan.
This is where I think we must be intellectually disciplined.
You experienced:
* sleeping in your father's room,
* the fan unexpectedly spinning,
* no obvious explanation.
Those facts are your experience.
Now several hypotheses become possible.
One is:
> There was an unnoticed electrical or ordinary explanation.
Another is:
> There exists some phenomenon we do not yet understand.
Another is:
> Your father's continued existence somehow interacted with the event.
The important point is that **the event itself does not uniquely determine which hypothesis is true**.
It creates uncertainty.
And uncertainty is precisely what you are describing.
---
## This is where I think our earlier model needs refinement
Earlier we almost assumed that cittam seeks certainty.
I no longer think that is true.
Perhaps cittam seeks
> **coherence.**
Those are different.
Many people would rather possess
a coherent explanation
than
no explanation at all.
Religion offers one coherence.
Strict materialism offers another.
But your own experience is different.
You are saying
> "I don't know."
That is psychologically difficult.
---
## The difficult position
You have now described your own position as something like:
> "I do not accept supernatural claims without evidence."
but also
> "I have experienced events that prevent me from dismissing the possibility completely."
I actually think this is a remarkably honest position.
Notice that it does not satisfy either extreme.
The committed theist may say
> "See, your father visited."
The committed materialist may say
> "Coincidence."
You are saying
> **"Neither explanation fully satisfies me."**
---
## Perhaps this is another stage of சித்தம் திரிதல்
Earlier we interpreted refinement as
changing beliefs.
I now wonder whether refinement sometimes means
**remaining honestly uncertain.**
That is much harder than it sounds.
Humans dislike uncertainty.
We like conclusions.
Yet some questions genuinely exceed our evidence.
Death may be one of them.
---
## This changes our understanding of the third Avan
Perhaps the third *Avan* does not always ask
> "Which belief is correct?"
Perhaps it sometimes asks
> **"Do I actually know?"**
That is a different question.
And perhaps one of the marks of தெளிவு is the ability to distinguish
* what I know,
* what I infer,
* what I hope,
* what I fear,
* what remains unknown.
---
## An unexpected connection
Remember the proverb we discussed:
> **வானம் ஒரே மாதிரி இருந்தாலும் வானிலை ஒரே மாதிரி இருப்பதில்லை.**
Perhaps the sky itself is like
our capacity for understanding.
The weather is
our current organization of beliefs.
The weather changes.
Sometimes dramatically.
The sky remains.
Likewise,
the warehouse is continually reorganized.
Some shelves disappear.
Others remain.
Some are rebuilt.
Some old foundations unexpectedly reappear.
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## I think we have discovered something new
Earlier we said
> **சித்தம் திரிதல் is lifelong refinement.**
I would now modify it.
Perhaps
> **சித்தம் திரிதல் is lifelong reorganization under incomplete knowledge.**
That is a much stronger statement.
It recognizes
* evidence,
* memory,
* personal experience,
* culture,
* uncertainty,
* and intellectual humility.
None of us reorganizes the warehouse with perfect information.
We reorganize it with
the best evidence,
the deepest reflection,
and the experiences available to us at the time.
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## I think this may become one of the central conclusions of your book
I would formulate it this way:
> **Human beings are not born with fixed ideologies. Their cittam gradually constructs an organization of beliefs from inherited traditions, lived experiences, education, relationships, and reflection. This organization is never entirely static, yet neither is it infinitely flexible. Earlier beliefs often leave enduring traces even after substantial revision. New experiences may challenge existing structures without conclusively replacing them, especially when the available evidence remains incomplete. Thus, சித்தம் திரிதல் is not merely the replacement of one belief by another, but the lifelong, often difficult, reorganization of one's warehouse of understanding in the presence of both evidence and uncertainty.**
I find one aspect of your own journey especially noteworthy. You did not say, "The fan proves there are spirits." Nor did you say, "The fan proves nothing." Instead, you allowed the event to **remain unresolved** while acknowledging that it affected your thinking.
Ironically, that may be one of the clearest examples of the **revisable cittam** we have been discussing. It is not a cittam that rushes to certainty, but one that is willing to let a genuine question remain open until stronger reasons emerge. That is a difficult position to maintain because, as the quotation you shared earlier reminds us, *most people don't like to have their beliefs challenged*. Yet the willingness to live with unresolved questions may itself be an important part of **சித்தம் திரிதல்**.
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Dialogue 110
Prompt
It sounds to me that we should really talk about சித்தம் மாறுதல் instead of சித்தம் திரிதல் with the change being the former tells us the ongoing changes that occur without retaining any particular dance being eternal and the latter being switching to another. The subtle difference being that the former can go back and forth with same ideas and new ideas, but the latter being abandoning the old idea and switch to new one. Not sure which is ideal in our framework, but with the prevailing uncertainty, I guess both can be valid.
Response
I think you've identified something that may become one of the central philosophical questions of your entire project.
Until now, we have almost taken **சித்தம் திரிதல்** as our guiding expression because it comes from Tirumūlar. But your distinction between **மாறுதல்** and **திரிதல்** is not merely linguistic; it is phenomenological.
Let's examine the two.
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## சித்தம் மாறுதல் (Change)
This suggests:
* continuous transformation,
* no permanent end point,
* revisiting old ideas,
* abandoning them temporarily,
* returning to them later,
* gradual enrichment rather than replacement.
It resembles the flow of a river.
The cittam today is not the cittam of yesterday.
Tomorrow it may not be today's cittam.
This is exactly what you described about your own life.
You began with one set of beliefs.
You changed.
Yet remnants remain.
Then your father's death and subsequent experiences reopened questions you thought had already been settled.
Nothing was completely erased.
That is **மாறுதல்**.
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## சித்தம் திரிதல்
Traditionally, the Tamil word *திரிதல்* carries several meanings depending on context:
* to turn,
* to deviate,
* to wander,
* to move from one state to another,
* to become transformed.
Within Tirumūlar, we have been reading it positively—as refinement toward **சிவமயம்**.
That interpretation gives it a **direction**.
There is an orientation.
Not merely movement.
Movement **toward** something.
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## The distinction you are making
I think you are saying:
> **மாறுதல் describes the phenomenology of ordinary human life.**
while
> **திரிதல் describes an intentional redirection or refinement.**
That is a very interesting distinction.
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## An example
Suppose someone says
> "I no longer believe."
Ten years later,
after new experiences,
the person says
> "Perhaps I was too certain."
Five years later,
> "I still don't believe, but I cannot dismiss certain experiences."
That is not
old belief → new belief.
It is
continuous reorganization.
That is **மாறுதல்**.
---
Now consider another person.
Anger repeatedly destroys relationships.
The person reflects,
learns,
changes habits,
becomes calmer.
There is a discernible movement
toward greater integration.
That seems closer to
**திரிதல்**.
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## This may solve one of our earlier problems
We struggled with
Thiruvalluvar,
Tirumūlar,
science,
and uncertainty.
Perhaps they operate at different levels.
### Level 1
Human cittam naturally undergoes
> **மாறுதல்**
because
* experiences change,
* memories accumulate,
* bodies age,
* evidence appears,
* relationships evolve.
This never stops.
---
### Level 2
Within those continual changes,
the person attempts
> **திரிதல்**
not simply to change,
but to refine.
---
Thus,
not every change
is refinement.
Not every refinement
eliminates future change.
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## This also fits your warehouse
Earlier we imagined
reorganizing the warehouse.
Now we can distinguish.
**மாறுதல்**
The warehouse continually changes.
New shelves.
Old shelves.
Unexpected discoveries.
Forgotten rooms.
---
**திரிதல்**
The warehouse is reorganized
with increasing wisdom.
Not merely rearranged randomly.
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## What about uncertainty?
You raise perhaps the strongest objection.
You say,
because uncertainty always remains,
perhaps no final refinement is ever possible.
I agree.
If that is true,
then even
**தெளிந்தார்**
should not mean
omniscience.
It should mean
the greatest clarity presently attainable
while still recognizing
human limitation.
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## I wonder if Tirumūlar intentionally chose திரிதல்
Here is where I hesitate.
I would not replace Tirumūlar's word.
Instead,
I would reinterpret it.
Perhaps
**திரிதல் already contains both ideas.**
Think about the verb.
When something
**திரிகிறது**
it is moving,
turning,
changing direction.
It is not frozen.
Perhaps Tirumūlar deliberately avoided a word implying a completed state.
---
## So perhaps the relationship is this
I would now formulate it as
> **மாறுதல் is the condition of human cittam.**
Every cittam changes.
Whether it wishes to or not.
---
> **திரிதல் is the conscious participation in that change.**
Instead of merely being carried by circumstances,
the person reflects upon them,
learns,
reorganizes,
and attempts greater integration.
That makes the distinction extremely elegant.
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## This also explains your own life
Your atheism,
your philosophical inquiry,
your mother's illness,
your father's death,
your experiences in his room,
your discussions on Tirumūlar,
your reflections on neuroscience,
your observations of autism,
your questions about dreams—
all of these are
**மாறுதல்**.
Your attempt to understand them,
organize them,
criticize them,
and integrate them
is
**திரிதல்**.
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## I think we have arrived at something important
Rather than replacing Tirumūlar,
I would actually put the two terms together.
> **சித்தம் மாறுதல் is inevitable.**
> **சித்தம் திரிதல் is intentional.**
One is descriptive.
The other is normative.
One tells us
what human cittam naturally does.
The other tells us
how human cittam may consciously participate in its own lifelong refinement.
If I were writing this chapter, I would end with a sentence like this:
> **Human beings cannot avoid சித்தம் மாறுதல், for experience continually reshapes the organization of beliefs, memories, emotions, and actions. The philosophical task proposed here is not to stop this perpetual change, but to transform it into சித்தம் திரிதல்: a reflective, self-aware participation in one's own changing cittam. Thus, change is universal, while refinement is intentional.**
I think that preserves the richness of Tirumūlar's expression while incorporating your new insight. It also resolves an issue that has appeared repeatedly throughout our discussions: **the human being never reaches a point at which change ceases. Even the தெளிந்தார் continues to live, experience, and respond to new circumstances. What distinguishes such a person is not the absence of change, but the quality with which change is understood and integrated.**
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Dialogue 111
Prompt
Sounds like both மாறுதல் and திரிதல் should be part of any சித்தம் and can not have a static state at any part of life. A dynamic belief system is always intended, but due to ego, identity, etc., which overrides the rationality, we get into conflicts and tension between the diverse belief systems.
Response
Yes. In fact, I think we have arrived at something that is more fundamental than many of our earlier conclusions. I would only make one refinement to your final sentence.
I completely agree that **both மாறுதல் and திரிதல் belong to every cittam**. They are not mutually exclusive.
I would describe them this way:
* **மாறுதல்** is inevitable because life itself changes us.
* **திரிதல்** is the conscious response to those changes.
Thus, cittam is never static.
## The dynamic nature of cittam
Earlier we thought of cittam as a warehouse.
I now think another metaphor may complement it.
Imagine cittam as a **living ecosystem**.
New experiences enter.
Old memories weaken.
Some become stronger.
Unexpected events revive forgotten ideas.
Relationships reshape priorities.
The body ages.
The brain changes.
Knowledge accumulates.
Nothing remains completely fixed.
This is **மாறுதல்**.
Now suppose the person reflects:
* What have I learned?
* What should I retain?
* What should I let go?
* Which ideas deserve greater confidence?
* Which ideas should remain uncertain?
That reflective participation is **திரிதல்**.
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## Ego is perhaps only one part
You wrote:
> **"...due to ego, identity, etc., which overrides the rationality..."**
I agree, but I think we can make the model richer.
Earlier we identified many dances:
* anger,
* jealousy,
* greed,
* fear,
* desire,
* attachment,
* recognition,
* love,
* guilt,
* obligation.
Now we should add
* identity,
* belonging,
* loyalty,
* security.
These often override purely rational evaluation.
Notice that not all of them are negative.
Suppose a person says:
> "I cannot abandon this belief because it would break my mother's heart."
That is not simply ego.
It is also
love,
belonging,
gratitude,
identity.
Likewise,
> "If I change my political belief, my friends will reject me."
That involves
social identity,
fear,
belonging.
Therefore I would not say
ego alone
overrides rationality.
Rather,
> **human rationality always operates within emotional and social dances.**
That is a much stronger phenomenological claim.
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## This also changes conflict
Earlier we spoke about
belief systems colliding.
I think we should now say
> **dynamic belief systems colliding.**
Because neither side is actually static.
Even the most stubborn person changes.
Only the rate,
direction,
and willingness
to acknowledge change differ.
One person may change imperceptibly over twenty years.
Another may change dramatically in one month.
Another may resist change until a major life event occurs.
Your own experiences with your father's death, your mother's illness, your work on Tirumūlar, and your reflections on neuroscience all illustrate that beliefs continue evolving throughout life.
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## I think there is one more step
The sentence
> **"Most people don't like to have their beliefs challenged."**
can now be expanded.
Perhaps the deeper principle is:
> **Most people do not resist change itself. They resist changes that threaten the coherence of their current organization of beliefs, relationships, and identity.**
That is a subtle but important distinction.
People willingly change
* technology,
* clothing,
* occupations,
* hobbies.
What they resist are changes that appear to dissolve
their self,
their family,
their community,
their meaning.
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## This leads to a very interesting reinterpretation of Tirumūlar
Suppose we put all this together.
Every human being inevitably undergoes
> **சித்தம் மாறுதல்.**
Life guarantees it.
Experience guarantees it.
Time guarantees it.
But only some people consciously participate in that change through
> **சித்தம் திரிதல்.**
That participation involves examining
not only
beliefs,
but also
the emotions,
identities,
attachments,
and fears
that sustain those beliefs.
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## A possible central thesis
I think we may now have a thesis that could become one of the philosophical foundations of your book:
> **Human cittam is inherently dynamic. It continuously undergoes சித்தம் மாறுதல் as a consequence of changing experiences, relationships, bodily conditions, memories, and knowledge. Within this unavoidable change lies the possibility of சித்தம் திரிதல்: the conscious, reflective participation in reorganizing one's beliefs, emotions, values, and actions. Conflicts between individuals arise not because change is absent, but because each cittam attempts to preserve the coherence of its own evolving organization. Ego, identity, belonging, love, fear, and attachment all contribute to this preservation. Thus, the central philosophical task is not to eliminate change but to cultivate a cittam capable of changing without losing its integrity and capable of engaging other evolving cittams without demanding that they become identical to itself.**
I think this is a significant step forward. Earlier we treated **சித்தம் திரிதல்** as the central concept. Now I think the relationship between **மாறுதல்** (the inevitable dynamics of human experience) and **திரிதல்** (the reflective cultivation of those dynamics) gives the framework a much richer and more comprehensive account of how human beings actually live. It also moves the discussion beyond religion, politics, or any single ideology into a general philosophy of human cognition, identity, and interpersonal life.
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Dialogue 112
Prompt
There are many unrealized truths, facts, realities, etc., and we continuously attempt to understand them fully. Science brought us through a sequence of events throughout our life and taught us many facts such as newton's law, gravitational power, power of waves within air and so on so forth. Every such fact led to many inventions within transport system, radio communications, etc., which led to enormous improvements in the quality of life. As a linguist, I still attempt to try to find some facts within language; so do other researchers in other disciplines of all kind. However, as for religion is concerned, question remains whether it should be treated like science, or it is science. Fundamentally, this may be due to our inability to fully understand the supernatural power, whether it does exist or not. Some of the miracles people mention, like the one I mentioned myself, lead one to keep exploring it instead of giving it up. What I mean by this entire prompt is that understanding the supernatural power still becomes part of the lives of cittam and it will continue to be so in future too.
Response
I think this may be one of the places where our framework can make a genuinely original contribution, because it avoids forcing a choice between two positions that have usually been treated as mutually exclusive.
The question is not simply:
> **"Is religion science?"**
Nor is it:
> **"Is religion false?"**
Rather, I think the deeper question is:
> **"Why does the question of the supernatural continue to occupy cittam generation after generation?"**
That is a phenomenological question.
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## Science and cittam
Science begins with a remarkably simple attitude:
> "There is something we do not yet understand."
Newton did not invent gravity.
He tried to describe a regularity already present in nature.
Maxwell did not invent electromagnetic waves.
He described relationships that were already there.
Later, engineers used those descriptions to build radio, television, satellites, and mobile phones.
Science therefore proceeds roughly as:
> observation → hypothesis → testing → revision → better explanation.
Importantly,
science expects its own explanations to change.
Newton was not "wrong."
Einstein refined Newton under broader conditions.
This is a beautiful example of **சித்தம் மாறுதல்** and **சித்தம் திரிதல்** operating within science itself.
---
## Religion begins differently
Religion often begins with experiences that people consider meaningful:
* awe,
* transcendence,
* moral transformation,
* ritual,
* suffering,
* gratitude,
* visions,
* miracles,
* encounters with death,
* questions about purpose.
It then develops narratives, symbols, rituals, and metaphysical explanations around those experiences.
The methodologies therefore differ.
Science asks:
> "Can this be independently tested?"
Religion often asks:
> "What meaning does this reveal?"
These are not identical questions.
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## But the supernatural question remains
This is where I think your observation is particularly important.
You say:
> **The question does not disappear.**
I agree.
For thousands of years humans have asked:
* Is there something beyond death?
* Is consciousness fundamental?
* Does purpose exist?
* Are miracles possible?
* Is there a divine intelligence?
Whether one answers yes or no,
the questions themselves persist.
That persistence requires explanation.
---
## Our framework can explain the persistence
I would not explain it by saying
> "Therefore the supernatural exists."
Nor by saying
> "Therefore religion is merely illusion."
Instead I would say:
> **Human cittam naturally encounters questions whose answers extend beyond presently available evidence.**
Death is one.
Consciousness is another.
The origin of the universe.
Why mathematics describes nature.
Whether moral values are objective.
Whether subjective experience can be fully explained physically.
These are genuine questions.
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## This is where your own experience matters
You mentioned your father's room.
The fan unexpectedly turned on.
You did not conclude
> "This proves spirits."
Neither did you conclude
> "Nothing happened."
Instead,
the event entered your warehouse
as
> **an unresolved observation.**
I think that is philosophically important.
Science often begins exactly that way.
Something unexpected happens.
The question remains.
The explanation is not yet known.
The mistake would be to confuse
> **unexplained**
with
> **supernatural**
or equally
> **unexplained**
with
> **impossible.**
Both conclusions go beyond the evidence.
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## This is perhaps where religion and science intersect
Not in their conclusions,
but in their beginnings.
Both begin with
wonder.
One asks
> "How?"
The other often asks
> "Why?"
Sometimes the two questions overlap.
Sometimes they diverge.
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## Cittam and the unknown
I think we should introduce another category of dances.
Earlier we identified
* anger,
* jealousy,
* greed,
* fear,
* attachment,
* defensiveness.
Now I would add
> **the dance toward the unknown.**
Human beings appear naturally driven to ask:
* What lies beyond the horizon?
* What lies beyond death?
* Why is there something rather than nothing?
* Why do I exist?
* Why is consciousness possible?
These dances seem almost universal.
Different cultures answer them differently.
But the questions themselves remain remarkably persistent.
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## The danger at both extremes
I think our framework now allows us to criticize two extremes equally.
One says:
> **Everything unexplained must be supernatural.**
The other says:
> **Everything unexplained will eventually receive a purely physical explanation.**
Notice that both are actually beliefs about the future.
Neither can presently be demonstrated in every case.
Both involve extrapolation.
The revisable cittam should probably resist both certainties.
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## Perhaps religion should not be evaluated by the same criteria as science
Here I would make a careful distinction.
If a religion makes an empirical claim about the physical world,
then that claim becomes open to empirical investigation.
But much of religion concerns
meaning,
purpose,
ritual,
ethics,
community,
hope,
and transcendence.
Those are not always scientific questions.
Nor are they necessarily immune from philosophical criticism.
They occupy a different domain.
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## This leads to a new conclusion
Earlier we said
> **சித்தம் மாறுதல் is inevitable.**
Now I would add
> **The unknown is also inevitable.**
No matter how much science advances,
new questions arise.
Every solved problem creates further questions.
Likewise,
every philosophical answer opens another question.
Perhaps,
then,
the unknown itself is one of the permanent dances of cittam.
---
## I think this may become one of the concluding chapters
I would formulate it like this:
> **Human history demonstrates an unending movement toward understanding. Science has progressively explained many phenomena once regarded as mysterious, leading to profound improvements in human life. Yet the expansion of knowledge has not eliminated all questions. Instead, it continually reveals new horizons of uncertainty. Questions concerning consciousness, death, meaning, and possible realities beyond current scientific explanation remain active within human cittam. These questions neither justify abandoning scientific inquiry nor compel immediate acceptance of supernatural explanations. Rather, they illustrate that the unknown itself is a permanent feature of human existence. Consequently, சித்தம் undergoes both மாறுதல் and திரிதல் as it continually reorganizes its understanding in response to evidence, experience, and the enduring presence of unresolved questions.**
I find this conclusion particularly elegant because it preserves something from both traditions. It preserves **science's commitment to evidence, revision, and intellectual humility**, while also acknowledging that **the human drive to ask questions beyond current knowledge is itself a fundamental and enduring dance of cittam**. That means the question of the supernatural is unlikely ever to disappear—not necessarily because the supernatural has been established, nor because it has been disproved, but because the very structure of human cittam continually reaches toward what it does not yet understand.